This article is a note from my own personal journal about the importance of being completely present. I’m sharing it here to serve as a reminder to myself but hopefully as a reminder to other Dads as well. We’ll always have bills to be paid, stuff at work to get done, home improvement projects etc. But the most important thing is to NOT miss out on this time with our kids. So when we are with them, let’s really be with them.
August 11, 2013
I really, really, really want to be my own boss – primarily so I can spend more time with my girls.
But for whatever reason, that’s not the way things have unfolded for me.
So, instead of getting hung up on that and ruining the precious moments that I do have with the girls, I am choosing to be grateful for “what is” right now and focusing on making the most of every second.
If I am with the girls – I am focused on being with them and making sure that I am totally present in those moments. I’m not stressed but very happy and positive. Because these moments with them are so fleeting.
One thing that has been really helpful for me to be truly present in those moments is reminding myself to “let go” of EVERYTHING else that is on my mind – bills that need to be paid, home projects, work stuff etc.
I just completely let go of all that fear, worry, planning etc. so I can really be fully there mentally with my girls. The fears, worries and all other thoughts of future and past “things” creep in but I try to recognize when that is happening and bring myself back to the moment.
All of those things will still be there when I’m not with spending time with the girls and there will be enough time to get the most important things done.
But when I am with them, the most important thing is to be completely there with them, not just physically but mentally too.
Recently I have been looking at some older pictures of Leah and I can NOT wrap my head around how fast the time has gone.
In some ways, when I think about all that has happened, it seems like a lot.
But really, she is 9 years old. My God…9 years old! My little baby is 9!!
I know the years will fly by as they always do and before I know it, she’ll be going off to college.
So, I want to make sure that every moment I have with her, Lily and Jodie is the best that it possibly can be….no matter how mundane the moment might be – like cleaning the house or running errands.
If I am with them, that moment is awesome and I want to make sure I’m really there to appreciate it.